“The first woman fell in love with the first man and as they merged into One they birthed the world within themselves from lightning and from fire, from knowledge and from Life. Their minds merged to form Mind, and they formed all things from silence.”
Toward a Science of the Metaphysics of Love
Love is necessarily mystical because it concerns the source, direction and intentions behind the passions/vital energies of life.
Ask yourself who, precisely, loves the people that you do; if you continue to ask who this "I" is, the source continually evades.
Until the end when you realize that this "I" is the other person as well, and by loving them, you are merely loving yourself. Love is the affinity of life for life; the desire for life to kindle life; the desire for awareness to expand and continually encompass more than itself.
To be in love with someone is to allow them to ignite the spark that you hold at the core of your essence; to love someone is to light them on fire.
Most love is built around fear and requires the presence of the other individual for mirroring, validation, etc; but True Love sustains itself outside of the psychological needs formed by space and time.
We cannot understand the fundamentals of the metaphysics of love within a Western empirical paradigm. Within this paradigm, a human is composed of body, thoughts, and emotions – and emotions are merely a subjective creation of the mind or brain, disconnected from everything outside the individual. Under the most materialistic interpretations, love is merely a mechanism for the survival of DNA and the bodily form.
Quote on Courtly Love:
"Courtly Love Romance and everyday romance are two entirely different concepts, and it is not realistic to expect everyone to live up to what, in Dragon terms, is an achievable reality, but which, in human terms, is no more than a somewhat disappointing, market-driven and unattainable ideal. Courtly Love was a feeding arrangement intended to result, not in marriage on the mundane level, but in hierogamy and transcendence on the highest of all levels of organic experience. [...]
As a consequence, and contrary to our present mores and social expectations, Romantic or Courtly Love and the unrealistic illusion of romantic monogamy were diametrically opposed to each other [...] formerly the Church and latterly, burgeoning market forces, have conditioned us to expect that we and the entire population should "Fall In Love" and marry for such love. In reality the majority haven't got a clue what "love" really is, beyond the imposition of their projections on another.
If love is understood to be the emotional manifestation accompanying a socially acceptable interactive norm which expresses or satisfies people's domestic or erotic expectations, then love is just a collection of egocentric illusions underpinned by self-deception and self-interest. It is wrapped in the pretty packaging of self-sacrifice and altruism, because people have never been taught the philosophy underlying the principal of Courtly or True Romantic Love. In any case, they are psychobiologically incapable of ever attaining it. Consequently they are unaware that true love is the destruction of the self through another, not the fulfillment of the self through another. Love is Death, not acquisition. Love is the end of desire, not the object of its own continuous gratification."
- Nicholas de Vere